To My College Roommate on Her Wedding Day

Whitney, 

Saturday is your Wedding Day. It’s a day every girl dreams of her entire life; it’s a day I’ve watched you plan every detail of for over a year now. I am so thankful I was given the chance to live with you for 2 years during college, and I am so thankful I get to stand beside you on your big day. 

I sit here and reminisce on our lifelong friendship, and I can’t help but to remember the times we spent laughing, crying, venting, but most of all, the time we spent growing closer. We sat and talked about life in 3 different apartments in those 2 years that seemed to pass by too fast. As Saturday quickly approaches, I realize our friendship will change even more than it already has, but how could it not? Just know I am happy for you as you start the journey to the rest of your life. There’s just a few things I want you to know.

1. Take it all in and just breathe. Saturday is going to be one of the happiest days of your life. It’s going to be a day filled with lots of make-up, hairspray, pictures, flowers, but most of all, joy. I hope your big day is everything you want and more.

2. Even though it will be a day filled with laughter, smiles, and joy, it’s okay to feel a little sad. As many of your closest families members enter the room where you’ll be getting ready, I’m sure you will have an overwhelming sense of sadness. I’m more than sure some tears will be shed as you think of your Poppy who isn’t here to see you, but just know he’s watching over you and smiling because you look so beautiful. It’s okay to cry Saturday because things are changing, but just know we all love you so much. 

3. Don’t forget to look back and remember your big day. As the life you and Luke live together pans out, don’t forget to reminisce on what that big day held for both of you. I’m sure he will have some stories to tell about the day long adventure all of those boys had. And I’m also sure you will have some stories to tell about what us girls did. But as you’re looking back on your wedding day, smile and laugh about it. It’s one of the happiest days you will spend together. 

4. It’s all about you. It’s easy to get caught up in the stress this day holds, but in the end, it’s all about you and Luke. All of your family and friends are there to celebrate your life and your love together. 

For now, just relax and try not to stress. Saturday is closer than we think. I can’t wait to see all of your hard work and planning pay off to become your very own Disney fairytale. I can’t wait to stand by your side. 

Here’s to your forever love!

I love you, 

Demi

You Shouldn’t be Someone’s Other Half

“The other half of me is already here…”

I’m sure you’ve heard someone say, “He/She is my other half.” Maybe you’ve even heard someone utter the phrase, “They’re my better half.” Just think about that for a second. Think about what that person said, or maybe even think about what you have said in the past relating to a phrase like this.

Half of something is 50% of it. Half of something will always be 50% no matter how hard you try to change it, so is that really settling with you? What I’m saying is when you’re someone’s other half, you’re only half of a human yourself. You’re only 50% of what you could be.

This society thrives on a good success story. There’s nothing better than someone having the drive to actually succeed. However, do you succeed by only giving 50% of what you could? No, you have to give 100%. You have to give it your all; you have to be whole in order to do something so great. If we thrived on success in love the way we thrived on success in careers, sports, money, etc., then we would see that it is acceptable to give 100% of yourself and feel no backlash. Love is an important aspect of life, and we should never lower a standard of expectation.

The phrase “my other half” goes hand-in-hand with the phrase “you complete me.” Of course girls everywhere want to hear those words come from the guy that makes their stomach have butterflies. Of course that phrase just makes girls swoon over what could be the love of their life. But don’t be fooled, Ladies. Don’t be his other half. Don’t complete him.

The best thing you can do for someone is let them be whole before you walk into their life. The best thing you can do for yourself is make sure you are whole before you allow them into your life. It is possible to make someone better and to help them grow as an individual, but you should never complete them. Each of you are individuals who should be complete by God himself. Being complete is not the job of a significant other.

Love is one of the most beautiful things in the world. It can take us completely by surprise. It can turn our world around. It can better us. It can make sure we know our worth. Love can do so many things for a person, and it is able to open up an emotion some have never felt before. Love simply makes the world go round.

If love is so beautiful, then why would you give half of yourself to it? Would you give half of yourself to that work project your boss just put on your desk to finish before Monday? Probably not. If that’s getting all of you, then love should to.

Never in my life do I want to be someone else’s other half. Never. It’s not because I don’t want to experience love; it’s because I’m already whole. The other half of me is already here; I found her a long time ago. I want you to be whole. I want you to give love 100%– not 50%.

Whole does not mean “perfect.” Perfect does not exist, and I’m aware of that. However, whole does exist. Strive to give love 100% because it’s something this society lacks in. Love is often swept under the rug due to fear of hurt. People often think it is acceptable to give 50% because only half of you gets hurt. But think of it this way… What if you would’ve experienced the greatest love story of all time if you would’ve just given 100%? It’s an entire 50% more you have to offer to someone.

Never look for your other half. Look for another whole. That’s when love becomes the best thing you’ve experienced. Don’t complete someone. Instead, grow together to make the person you are an all around better person.

Rae

Inspiration

Inspired: of extraordinary quality, as if arising from some external creative impulse. 

Above is the definition Google gave me when I searched “inspired.” People can feel inspired to do anything if they have that certain push over the edge. We can do anything if we can find that little piece of motivation and run with it.  
I’ve always heard an inspiration can come from anywhere in this world; it can come from a person, quote, bible verse, and many other things. My inspiration tip toed in my room as I was just dozing off; it came as a voice I found so familiar, a voice I knew I needed to answer to. I rolled over and asked him with a laugh, “Dylan, what in the world are you doing?” He sat down on my bed, and of course conversation started to flow. Conversation comes easy when you’re sitting with him; it’s a breath of fresh air when you’re talking to someone so genuine. 

This conversation wasn’t one I was expecting. We chatted briefly about school, but quickly transitioned into a recent photo I had posted online. This turned into one of the most inspiring conversations I’ve had in a very long time. If I take one thing away from tonight, it will be this, “Don’t stop trying. Don’t let those people get to you.” 

No matter what you do in this life you should be doing it for yourself. Your life should please you–and for me, the Lord. You should find yourself and make sure the person you want to be is who you’re striving to be. Happiness can come easy in this crazy world, but you have to first allow yourself to go down a path that will give you the chance to be happy. Don’t let society ruin who you want to be because you think you’re not good enough. You’re always good enough. 

Inspiration came in a perfect disguise tonight, and I truly can’t thank the Lord enough for that. I can tell you I’m inspired to do something that makes me happy; I’m inspired to be who I want to be. 

Let yourself be inspired. Don’t hold it back; it could be something extraordinary. 

Thank you for the company, Dylan. I will forever enjoy our talks.

Rae🌞